I find that when you call something a “method” it sometimes accidentally gives it street cred.
So last week, when I started talking about The Cactus Method of homeschool planning on Instagram, mamas started asking me what book it was from and where I had gotten the idea.
So I’m going to tell you that it’s from me, and it’s from a book I am writing in my head, but not the book I am currently writing-writing. I plan to finish that book in a few weeks while staying in a monastery, but I’m getting off track.
Anyway, the “cactus method” of homeschool planning is simply an idea I have that when you plan your week or day, you need to hold on to those plans loosely, like how you would hold a cactus. Originally I said a porcupine or cactus, but it quickly occurred to me how little control you would have if you were holding a porcupine.
The porcupine is really more in control in that specific scenario, and so it doesn’t work for the metaphor.
But a cactus – that’s all about you, baby. You can hold a cactus however you want, but I suggest you hold it gently.
Certainly don’t squeeze – my goodness.
So with that in mind, I go into my homeschool days with a plan, but not a schedule. And I guess I kind of figure after 12 years that things are going to come up, and plans might change, and there will be days when things just don’t really work at all, i.e. the kitten gets insane diarrhea on the FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL.
(This is how God/the Universe likes to keep me in my place – by reminding me that YES! I am in charge! But also, not really!)
How to use The Cactus Method
So every morning, I look at my planner. (I use this one and if you like it, use this link and get 5 bucks off – I’m on your side!)
And then I figure out what we can realistically do today, and then still think we can do more than we can.
But, I write a general plan on our desktop chalkboard.
This is saving a lot of sanity around here, because:
- it forces me to plan the day, at least loosely
- I don’t have to keep our plans in my head
- everyone can see what we need to do
- everyone isn’t asking me what we are doing every 8 minutes
Now, if all I had to do was follow the plan, I think that would probably be easy.
But I am squishy and sensitive.
I’m an INFJ – and INFs take everyone’s feelings into account ALL THE TIME.
I’m also an Enneagram 9. Our tagline should basically be, “I don’t know. What do YOU want to do?”
This used to mean that sometimes my kids would wake cranky, or out of sorts and I would start making up special breakfast plates and filibustering in order to get our day going.
But now I have a tween and a teen, and when teens and tweens get “out of sorts” that can be surly AFF (as fancy Frenchmen.)
My whole strategy for getting people to the table this year has been “delicious breakfast food.”
Because just like how they say the biggest thing with exercise is just putting on your gear, or the biggest thing with yoga is rolling out your mat, the biggest thing with surly wildebeest tweens and teens is just getting them to the table and putting some protein in their face-holes.
(Also maybe avoid eye contact.)
You can see how all of this is a recipe for the cactus method, right?
I’m also going to share one other tip, and that’s to CREATE MARGIN. Because kids have interests and passions, and if we make time for those things, everyone is happier.
So another key component of the cactus schooling method (#copyright #trademark) is asking your kids, “What do you want to do today?”
In order to be able to fulfill those requests/dreams, however, you can’t have your day packed full of things YOU want to do.
I’ve long believed this to be true, but recently I was talking to a friend who has graduated two kids, and those kids are now pursuing their passions via college and thriving, so even though I made up the cactus method (#allrightsreserved), I think there is something to it.
Finally, you may be asking yourself how to keep track of things if you are “planning” so loosely.
I have a few recommendations:
- First, you can download my free homeschool bullet journal planning guide here.
- In your bullet journal, or planner, or any notebook, you can create a Big Picture Planning Page. (BPPP)
- Then, each week, as you sit down to plan, you can mark out what you would like to do each day.
Remember – this is a general idea, and you are not tied to these things.
This is not a blood oath situation. Stop chanting.
- Then, leave room for margin. Leave room for emergency kitten vet visits and leaky toilets and surly AFF kids and hobbies and interests.
If this makes you super nervous, maybe check out this post on how I record what we have done in our homeschool each day, and how that is helping me build a transcript for my high schooler.
Then, repeat after me: We don’t have control over what our kids learn or retain. We do have control over the tone of our days, and how we treat our people, and those things are more important anyway.
So hold that plan like a cactus. Put it down entirely if you need to. (Some days you WILL need to.)
Thank you for coming to my Cactus Method TEDtalk.
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